Mothers and Daughters – Rev. Mrs Yinka Odunayo
What every mother need to teach her daughter.
Parenting is hard work and also very challenging. When it comes to raising daughters, I think it is more tasking and every mother will need God’s grace and divine help. There are so many young women today who wander about aimlessly and are confused because many of them didn’t have proper guidance and teaching from their mothers. We mothers need to be focused and direct in raising godly daughters for God in this generation. It is important to start early when they are young.
Teach her to be herself: – Develop self confidence. Your daughter’s future is limitless and with God she can fly, Let her know it. She must see her potential and dream big. She is not better than anyone, and no one is better than her. Teach her she can do anything with the right attitudes, efforts and resources. Empower her to have vision of a great life. Life is beautiful; don’t burden her with your own failures, if there is nothing meaningful to learn from them. Don’t let your fears and childhood misinformation stop her dreams. With the right skills and a little patience, our daughters will develop self worth and confidence they need and be the stars they were destined to be. In God, they can be bold and courageous.
Teach her about money: Women are generally uninformed about money. Money is an important part of life. Guide her to see money as a tool, not a reflection of her value. Let her know that money is a bad master, the love of it intoxicates. Teach her to work for money and learn how to save money. Teach your daughter the important skill of budgeting, principles of investing and how money grows. Empower her to invest in her dreams and make her understand money has no power except what we give it. Teach her to be financially independent and not plan to be a burden to a man. You don’t need a man to be you.
Teach her about hygiene: She must know how to wash, when, and where. She needs to know how to wipe when she finishes. Talk to her about monthly periods and the complexities of a woman’s body. Don’t shy away from anything. Be as direct and honest as possible. Talk to her about hormones and sex. It is dangerous if she learns it from outsiders.
Teach her how to be friends with a boy: She is different from a boy. She is a girl. She must carry herself gracefully and comport herself. A boy can be her brother, friend, school mate, neighbor and colleague. Don’t let your daughter think boys are solely for romantic daydreams and first kisses. She must see humanity in every human being and learn to relate appropriately. Sex is not a sign of love, she must value her body. She is not a toy to be played with. Tell her “If you’re not married to him, don’t have sex with him”. Friendship, not romance, is the cornerstone of every meaningful relationship especially marriage.
Teach her about food: Teach her to make good choices about food and eat everything in moderation. We eat to live and not live to eat. Teach her how to cook. Invest time with her in the kitchen; show her how things are mixed up to become nice meals. Go with her to the market. Explain in details how to buy things and how to store food items. Your fridge is an important place, show her how to arrange it and keep things in place.
Teach her to be a good friend: Good friends are valuable in life so teach her that it is not the quantity of friends that matter. It’s the quality. Show her the qualities to look for in those she desire to be friends with. Let her learn to love people and be there for them. When people talk to her, she must LISTEN to them. Teach her to treat people well. In life, people always remember how you make them feel.